Why do I even try?

This is a conversation I had with the new wifey back in December. I really enjoyed this one because of how moronic she sounds.

December 9^th, 2009

Me- I already told Curtis, but jo needs to go to her daycare every Friday. There is no taking her to his mom just because it is convenient for him. If she doesn’t go on Friday’s she loses her spot and I still have to pay and I will not pay for a day she did not go.

Whitney- That is something you two need to discuss. I will take her wherever she needs to go. That is great, because I believe I just told you that she needed to go to daycare.

Me- Um, I am well aware that I need to discuss it with him. Hence why I said I was letting you know. Jo not going to school is not and option. Period. Her school was set up before court and I am not going to let her lose her spot because of it.

And if you want me to treat you like the step mom, then act like it. Because I find it funny that it is okay for you to ask me if you can pick her up from me when Curtis should be the one asking and not you. So this can be a nice smooth process o I can be your worse nightmare:) I don’t’ have to put you down as a pickup for Jo’s school and I sure as hell don’t have to drop her off with you.

Whitney- Lindsey, I am her step mom Um actually, you are only the step mom until you are disposed of. and always will be you are only the step mom when you are married to Curtis… you don’t care super special step mom titles from relationship to relationship. And believe me, you won’t have a relationship with my daughter when your time is up.  and will do my best to play that role the best I can Good to know. . The decisions and details of her daily life need to be made by you and Curtis No shit? Thank you for clarifying. Thank god you are in the picture to set things straight. Fyi… that isn’t very step momish of you. and I hope you know by now I will do anything that I am required to do and anything I can do as she grows up Great, because it is COURT ORDERED she is to be dropped off at daycare via her father. Thank you for giving me the heads up so I know to talk to Curtis about it later tonight I wasn’t giving you a heads up. I was telling you that you will be dropping her off at daycare.

Me- You are her step mom on technicality because neither of you gave a shit about the girls. So personally, I don’t care if you are her “step mom” or not. Stick around for a few years and I might consider you part of her family. Until then, I don’t give a fuck about you or your family or any special events you have planned with her. And I definitely don’t need you to tell me that I need to talk to Curtis. Last I checked, I wasn’t discussing anything with you, I was telling you. Big diff sweety :)

Whitney- Look Lindsey, I don’t want to fight with you Then why are you still talking? and I don’t care if you like me or not Yeah, I think I said this many of times. Way to be original. Bottom line is I am married to her father Really? and carrying her baby sister What the hell does being pregnant have to do with this conversation?. If you consider me the stepmom or not is irrelevant Actually, it is relevant. I will be in her life and that is not a bad thing It wouldn’t have been a bad thing if you actually knew my daughter BEFORE you married your loser husband. All I said is this morning that I don’t want or care to be involved in the discussions between you and Curtis Only when it will make Curtis pissed at you? . Those are your decisions as her parents Hahah….. I will do whatever I am told to do and support whatever decision seems fit Well via Court Order you are to drop her off at daycare, why are we still discussing this? So the courts said to drop her off, they didn’t specify that it depended on whether or not you deemed the decision right.

Me-  Look, Whitney. I don’t care if you want to fight or not. Nor do I care if you are married to Curtis or if you are carrying her baby sister, which I might add was my girl name I picked out to go along with the the pb and j I came up with. Second, I wasn’t discussing anything with you. There is where the miscommunication is. I was telling you. You do not have a say in anything dealing with my daughter and for some reason  you construed what I said into think I was actually asking for your input. I wasn’t. I was letting you know. Having a discussion is where we are actively communicating, which we weren’t. I think that is where you got confused. Third, you supporting any decision that is made means shit to me since you have no say and marrying her father or being pregnant does not give you authority to any decisions. So think about that the next time you are the messenger and ask if you can pick up Jo again.

And for the record, I was informing you this morning because I assumed you would be taking her to school. I wasn’t trying to strike up a convo with you or trying to set up a lunch date. I was being courteous. A simple thank you would have been suffice, not your bitchy, catty responses or telling me what I need to do. Thanks.

Whitney- That is what I am saying! No need to text me Um negative, if you are taking her to daycare, you need to know where she goes, not where your husband wants her to go…so why would you? So you hear it from me. It wouldn’t have made a difference would it? Would it made a difference if I called the cops because she wasn’t in daycare? Oh, it would? That would have been psycho and unacceptable of me? Well so is doing whatever the fuck you think is okay to do.  Then it doesn’t need to happen anymore. So I want to clarify, you have stipulations on when it is appropriate to be a step mother?

Whitney- Okay. I had no intentions on being a bitch Right. You had every intention….Like I said thank you for telling me You are very welcome….And I am ending this conversation so please stop texting me. Jesus Christ. So you want me to treat you like a step mom but you don't want to play the part? What Jesus Christ has nothing to do with this conversation.

My Dream

I had an awful dream about you last night, which compelled me to tell you this.

Last April, when I confronted you about cheating on me and having the audacity to drive the girl around in my dad’s truck, I became a towering inferno of rage.

You, of course, tried to tell me I was “trippin” blah blah blah. When I reached my bullshit quota, I went into the bathroom and looked at the disgusting piss smeared toilet. I could see all the hair that you refused to clean up after you got done shaving your head I could feel the chunks of my breakfast start to rise in my throat because your hair resembled pubes.

I lifted the toilet seat, positioned myself correctly, and waited to throw up. While I waited, I began to examine the underside of the toilet seat. “Disgusting bastard,” I thought. You always pissed in a careless manner, aimlessly disposing of your smelly excretions, oblivious to the fact that it was splattering on, around, and even out of the toilet. You did everything but actually get the piss in the bowl. “You were always a filthy, godless, son of a bitch, weren’t you?” I muttered to myself.

My sudden urge to vomit was replaced by an overwhelming urge to clean. But with what? I glanced around the bathroom, searching for the nearest abrasive-life tool. Something, anything, to teach that nasty toilet a lesson.

And there it was…….. Your motha fucking toothbrush.

Ooooh Grandmother of my child

I understand that you are the grandmother of my child, but that doesn’t mean that you can step on my toes and do whatever you want to do. For example, your step father (or whoever he is to you) is in prison because he molested YOUR children. Yet, you still visit him EVERY weekend and defend him to everyone. It’s cool if you want to visit him or still have a relationship with him, but don’t push it on other people. Also, don’t ever defend him to me.   You will lose. He molested you, your sister, your brother! You should have cut all ties to him when that happened. But you didn’t, you brought your children around him. What were you thinking? Do you think that he wasn’t going to molest them? Well he did! He molested your children. Don’t you feel like an awesome mother. You couldn’t even protect them and now they are effed in the head. Congrats! The killer is, your youngest finally spoke out and now he is in prison because of that. What was your reaction? Oh yes, you shunned your youngest son and he was no longer part of the family because he said he was raped instead of molested. Un-fucking-believable.  What the fuck is wrong with you? It shouldn’t matter if he was raped or touch. That is unacceptable.  Yet, you wonder why I don’t trust you with my daughter. Like I said before, if you want to continue to have a relationship with him, that is your deal. Bringing him pictures of your grandchildren is not cool. He is a child molester, bringing him pictures of children to the prison is AGAINST THE LAW. You have no rights to my daughter  and simply asking her loser father is not okay. I am the primary care giver, you come to me if you want to show off pictures of my daughter to a felon.  For some reason, you think you can do whatever you want with your first grandchild, which means, you can do whatever you want with all your grandchildren. WRONG.

Your sister had a picture of HER daughters sketched by a prison mate of your step father. If she wants that done, that is her business because she is the parent. However, YOU bringing a picture of your first two grandchildren to be sketched is out of line. They were 5 and 2 years old at the time of the picture. Once you received the sketch of them, you immediately showed it off. First of all, the drawing sucks ass and doesn’t even look like them at all. Second, what makes you think it is okay to bring a picture of minors to a jail to give to a CHILD MOLESTER? Of course, your entire fucked up family and friends think it is super cute. I on the other hand call you out. I loved how you got mad at me when I asked if her MOTHER knew about this. You didn’t didn’t talk to me for about a month like I was in the wrong. How dare I question you. You have HIV from being a fucking whore, you have excellent decision making skills!

I immediately tell you, that you are not to show my daughter off to people in the prison. WTF???? Am I the only one with a brain and morals here?  I then find out that the child’s father said it was okay that you brought the picture to be sketched. WTF?!?!? The mother and father are divorced. You aren’t asking him to take her out for ice cream. You are asking to bring a picture of your 2 year old grandchild to a prison to show to a child molester and his prison mates. You are awesome.

What amazes me most is that you get pissed off and act all offended when I tell you that you will never see my daughter ever again if you bring a picture of her to be sketched by a person in prison. What’s that, why don’t I trust your judgement? Ummmm, I don’t know, maybe it is the fact that you were molested by the same man and brought your children around him. Maybe, it is the fact you go online to find other HIV men and bring them home to live with you. I don’t know. Maybe it is just me, but I don’t think that is healthy for my daughter.

If you want your grandchildren sketched by someone, try the homeless person down the road. I am sure he can draw 10 times better than the prison inmate anyways.

My amazing conversation with the step mom

Okay. For some odd reason, my daughter’s stepmom (on technicality), decided she was going to overstep her boundaries, again.  Apparently, it is her place to inform me that I am a bad mother. I think it is safe to say, she is trying to tell me that she is the better mother. (she is the better mother, but she is still pregnant with her first child. Weird)

It started with her butting in, like always. I don’t care when you met my ex. I don’t care if he was playing us both the entire time I was with him. I don’t need you to tell me when you met and give me some sob story about how bad you feel. Hahaha…. I don’t even know what to say to that.

Okay, so you text me to tell me your side of the story on when you met my ex. Great. I don’t care. Last I checked, you went all psycho and told me never to text you again. Which I didn’t and I expect the same courtesy. But once again, it is okay to message me when it benefits you. Here is how the convo went.

Me-  I am only going to tell you this once more, this is between curtis and myself. Not you. Nothing you say will ever justify you putting your input where it doesn't belong. Funny how you message me about this bullshit but bitch and complain when I discuss my daughter . I can't talk to you. You make my brain hurt. I couldn't even read what you texted me because it is not your place and you are dumb. So quit trying to act like you are some mature person or whatever. I don't have time for this bs. Talk about overstepping boundaries. So spew your worthless garbage to someone else. You want to make things right? Quit being a fucking cunt all the time. I don't owe you anything. Great you watch my daughter. good for you. Doesn’t' mean I have to respect you. It goes both ways princess. I appreciate that you do look out for my daughter but acting like I am jealous or bitter or anything towards you is not the answer.  (By this time, I had enough of her. She is an idiot and she goes from one extreme to the next. One minute she is talking smack and the next she is trying to be nice. I don’t get her.)

Her Response- LOL, I apologize and be a generous person trying to clear things up and you call me a cunt. Mature, and it is obvious your (ugh she can't spell) my elder. Goodnight and karma be with you my friend. Wtf?!?! May karma  be with me? Really? What did I do to you that karma will get me? That is cute.

Me- Apparently karma already got you both. So unless you know the whole story, don't involve yourself. Don't talk to me about being mature. But if it makes you feel better then cool. High five to you. Also, I never said Tyler or Anna said anything to me so don't involve them. You have no idea what you are talking about. All you know is what curtis told you. I love when the new girl thinks she knows everything about that past. You are a moron honey. You just look like a damn fool. Thanks for the entertainment!

Her Response- yeah and affecting your daughter as well, which you are too blind to see. Like her father being the loser that he is, isn’t affecting her? Okay. Got it! You can take our money, no biggie. Actually, I don’t take your money. The clearing house takes HIS money. Then I get it. But it isn’t my money. It is my daughter’s.  It comes and goes. But it’s a little more serious when it's your daughter that can't get new warm clothes (how is this my problem? She has plenty of clothes at my place. Oh yes, that is right. I actually put her first instead of buying some stupid 40 dollar American eagle hat that looks like shit anyways) and we are struggling to put food on the table for while you are buying touch screen cell phones (I don’t have several touch screens. Just one) that you can't even type on(is this even a valid point?) and if you believe that is the karma she deserves, you better think again. I am not texting you back. I won't read anything you send don't waste your time this conversation is over, and you are literally messed up in the head. Is this her cute little way to turn everything around? Karma my daughter deserves? What the hell are you even talking about? You don’t even make sense. Shut the fuck up!

ME- I am messed up because how? Doesn't curtis have a touch screen? Weird? Oh yes, he has a mytouch that he actually got when it first came out that he tried to say was 50 bucks. I bet you feel like a fool! It's cool, not everyone can be as quick as me. I still don't understand why you are talking to me. You don't know the story. You are obviously mad because I am the one that takes care of my daughter but it is cool. See, when you have a child with someone and neglect taking care of them, you pay this thing called child. See when he was too busy courting you and knocking you up, he had a daughter he wasn't taking care of. So, he is paying child support and back child support. You will learn all about that when your two years are up, oh wise one. And it is obvious you have no idea what are you are talking about because I lost everything because curtis up and left. And if you are struggling so much, maybe  just maybe, you should have three dogs or let curtis buy a shit load of American Eagle clothes. Just a suggestion.

Her Response-  Wow practice what you preach, oh wait, you know everything huh, I forgot. Yeah, actually, I do know everything. Thank you for acknowledging that. What exactly am I supposed to be practicing what I preach? That I should take care of my daughter? Or that I buy a shit load of clothes? How is it that you know I buy clothes are not? Did you stop trying to stalk me via the web and finally went hardcore and watch me in person? And if I am buying a shit load of clothes, please tell me where they are at, because they sure as hell are not in my closet. So, is this the “I know you are but what am I” game?

ME- practice what I preach? I don't complain about not having money. And it isn't hard to figure out that he is buying American Eagle clothes when there are bags everywhere and I see him in new clothes.... I know this is hard to comprehend... I was with him for 4 years before you, lovey..... I know what clothes he has. Thanks for asking and for your info it is nice to have money for once because someone is paying for his portion. Good for me that he is taking care of his shit... too bad it took months for him to do it. And it took the courts for him to man up. And it is nice that my money doesn't go to overdraft fees or curtis. And you guys are mad because you are paying child support? maureen makes more than all of us combine and I don't see you guys bitching.... that extra 200 dollars a month in back support is the killer huh? And yeah he is paying me money but it isn't enough to buy new shit for me.... you must have missed all the sweet clothes I buy my daughter. I lost everything and my car doesn't work so go fuck yourself because that is my daughter and his daughter and he owes child support. Bottom line. Sorry you don't have money. Should have thought about that. See I am not a push over like maureen. I have paid over 800 bucks in medical bills and child care so excuse me when I laugh at you both for being stupid .

ME(again)- and I am failing to see where this is my fault? You must be upset. It is cool. Whatever makes you feel better and all the money I get goes in an account if you must know. Not that it matters. I don't have to justify myself. So you might want to think about what you say before you open that asshole you call a mouth. Oh and I offered to make the truck current so there is a vehicle for my daughter when she is there.

Her response- revengeful Really? How? Because the courts ordered he pay child support? Well, in that case, I am revengeful. And it feels great!, dispicable Once again, your spelling skills are shining though! , disappointing to who? You? That you don’t have money? Or disappointing because I don’t work at a fish house?, and selfish Yeah, I forgot draining  my savings for my daughter’s dr. bills is selfish, thats what you portray. No Lindsey, we don't want had outs from you because you will say one thing one day, then change it the next. I wont' sit here and try to kiss your ass and keep my mouth shut to get what I want like everyone else What is is that you want? Because, my daughter is out of the question. Thanks.. it is not the the Lindsey show Actually, it isJ and you don't realize it now but your daughter will one day realize that it didn't have to be so hard to have her parents split but that her mom made it that way Haha I made it that way? Wow, you must know how the break up went down more than I do. he didn't leave your daughter Um yes, cunty jones, he did leave his daughter. Never coming home or asking to see her is leaving her. , he left you He didn’t leave me, I broke up with him when he was messing around with you., so let him be a father, he is busting his ass to provide for her haha, and he is doing the best he can If he was doing the best he could, he couldn’t have new clothes or other worthless junk while  my daughter doesn’t have a jacket. Let him do that at least

Her response again- LOL, no this is you being mad at the world and hating life I think it is the other way around sweety. I love my life!. I appologize And you want to be a teacher?, and you flip out all angry status. Never had that reaction before…. Guess that’s why the masses are agreeing you’re psycho The masses? You, your husband, and his mother? Are you including your family in this equation because people who don’t know me don’t count. You have your child sleeping on a couch. How is it that you know my living situation? Because if you did, you would know she isn’t sleeping on the couch. Your daughter has been sick for months on end. Are you insinuating that her being sick is my fault? Mrs. I had swine flu but didn’t bother to tell you I was sick in the first place? You are constantly sick, yet, it is my fault she is sick? Okay! You raised her in a house that was a pigsty Are you going off of what your husband says? Your husband doesn’t even know proper hygiene etiquette. You have no idea what she was raised in. I keep the house clean, but I refuse to pick after a pig. , and sounds like she is still living in one How would you know this when neither of you have been to my house?. How do you justify putting that money into savings when you, a double major grad student cannot provide a roof over your head or a healthy living environment for your daughter Thank your husband for not letting me provide a roof over her head;) I am into debt up the ass because of him and I go to grad school FULL time and healthy as in emotional or physical? Because living in a small, dog –infested, smelly apartment is healthy? Or the fact that you are constantly fighting with your husband in front of the children is healthy? I am just trying to understand where you are coming from but having a hard time with it, but feel justified in taking money from a household that is stable, where she and her sister have their own bed It is justified. The courts have spoken and I have a court document. What other justifications do you need? Stable? Weren’t you just bitching about not having money to buy my daughter warm clothes?. You can’t provide for her, but you also feel okay not letting her father provide for her either? Wow, mother of the year award honey. Just because I don’t have my own place doesn’t mean I don’t provide for her. The only thing I don’t pay is rent. Oh yeah, utilities also. Other than that, I have bills just like you my dear. You need to get over the fact that he has to pay child support. I guess he should have thought about that before he started sticking his “magic stick” in every vagina he saw.

ME- hahahahah that is awesome! I am a little confused.... again... must be the theme of this convo... see. He didn't leave me, but cool whatever. And when he doesn't come to the house to pay for bills or see his daughter, or call the car in stolen, he did leave her. So I am not quite getting your logic in this whole senario... it must go back to you have no idea what you are talking about. But if you must continue to look like a bafoon... continue.

ME- Wow, bitter much? Are you upset that you are not jo's mother? So you are stable but have no money? And my daughter sleeps on the couch? Are you a super sleuth? Weird? My parents have a huge 5 bedroom house. We have our own room. Thanks. And get this.... we even have our own beds. But I don' t have to justify myself to you. curtis is filthy and doesn't even brush his teeth all the time. He wears the same whitey tighties for a week and I am filthy? Well unlike you, I am not a maid and do not pick up after filth. But it is cute that you know all about my life. And how is jo sick because of me? You are the one that is sick every time she goes over there? Is your baby blocking all the germs that can transfer over to my daughter or something? amazing! again, confused about that one since some genius failed to bring my daughter a jacket to school.

Her response-  you can't even match flip flops! What does matching flip flops have to do with anything? She dressed herself. Who cares.  and like you said, you are living at your parents at 28 and have been for almost a year. You are proud you have your own bed? congrats! I am proud we have our own beds!

ME-  hahahahha okay. Well you got me there. I am a horrible mother. Thank my lucky stars above I have you in my life to point out all my flaws. Maybe it is time to re-evaluate my situation and figure out what I am doing wrong. I forgot a marriage certificate means you know the entire story of what happened. Well, I thank you for informing me on how everything went down and I can clearly see how I was out of line for asking curtis to help support his daughter. Silly me. And I am glad out of everything you bring up the flip flops. They are flip flops... she dressed herself. Get over it. If you are going to bitch to me, bitch to me about something good. But again, it goes back to, this isn't your place. It is clear that you are just talking because you are mad and you think you are jayden's mother. So I guess this convo is over since you have no valid points and you are just trying to bitch. You will soon understand young grasshopper.

Her Response: Lindsey, they didn't even match I am well aware that they didn’t match. I didn’t care. Why dress her nice just to go over to your smelly dog apartment? and she looks like her hair has not been brushed in days Since, you guys barely have her, I don’t expect you to know what it is like to have a child who has a jew fro. He is trying to provide for two households two? Since when does $600 pay for one? And since your husband is a loser, I don’t even get the full $600, you are right. But that brings up the phone again I still don’t get how the phone has anything to do this. I have MY own money. I don’t blow my money and why jayden and you don't have a house Does it really bug you that I have family that can actually help me? I forgot a house costs as much as a phone. I am not her mother, you must be getting paranoid about that since you keep bringing it up. And I am just trying to figure out why if you don't care about curtis and you being over, you are so resentful to me. To the point I apologize because I would want someone to if it was me and you blow everything out of proportion. Hahah and people wonder why dealing with the two of you is stressful. You completely did a 180 in this text. Not to mention, your Dr. Phil is coming out.

Me-  so we are on the flip flop kick again? Really? and who had to ask who if her hair could be brushed when over at his place? Weird. But whatever, if flip flops are on the top of your list, I am one damn good mother. Thanks sugar.  Second, she dressed herself who cares. Third, I am not paranoid, I am telling you that you are acting like you are her mother and you are totally overstepping your boundaries and I don't like it. She knows who her mother is, so don't flatter yourself. And as far as the house goes, you don't even own a house and you can barely afford rent so you aren't that far behind me. Maybe you are just jealous because I have a sweet set up because you will never be able to move in with your parents because your mom lives in an apartment. I don't know though,I don't really know you

Me-  And I am not resentful towards you. You just don't know when to stop, when I tell you to stop, stop, don't push it like a little kid. You apparently think it is your place to discuss all this with me. I didn't realize you got me pregnant. weird. And you are right. I do take certain things to the extreme. I have dealt with this stupid drama for almost a year and it is still being brought up. You haven't had to pay child support for most of the year while I was struggling not being able to pay for my house, so excuse me when I don't really care about our financial situation. Fuck, you have no idea what went down yet you are all up in my shit. I can't even breathe. But keep it up. I find this hilarious... just more shit to laugh with everyone about. Thanks!

Me-  p.s. I wash her hair. Curtis doesn't get her until 4pm. That means she has all day to get dirty and mess her hair up. And unlike some people, I give her naps.... which means her hair will get messy. But thanks for playing along

Her Response- which is fine I am glad I got your approval, I only see her when she gets home and that makes sense. I am not trying to take your spot, never have, never been and when you thought she was talking about another mom, she was talking about mama g, my mom. She definitely knows her mom and always will Yeah, no shit!

ME- Well thank you Tyra motha fucking Banks. Go read some parenting books on how to be a proper step mom.

Her Response- see that is the shit I am talking about. I never said I knew everything from before or everything about you Does anyone else see the contradiction in this?, but I do know now What exactly do you know? You still don’t know SHIT. You only know what your husband tells you. You never once tried to be cool with me to even understand that I will be cool when you guys grow up. So, no, you DON’T know anything Twatty McGee, and the things that affect me and I am so confused why you resent me and why you push things with me. I have never started a conversation to fight with you or to be a bitch, but you turn everything into that way. I feel like I am talking to myself right now.

ME- ha wow. Okay. I don't even know if I can carry on this conversation. I don't consider it a conversation when all you do is take what I say and turn it around into your own words. Basically, that is talking to myself, except, I don't piss myself off. Weren't you the one telling me about my living situation? But you don't know everything now? Typical fucking curtis. Keep it up. And I push things? Jesus fucking Christ. Do you save what I tell you and then use it on me later like I won't know? That doesn't impress me and sure as hell won't make me like you. Just in case you were wondering. And for the record, you still don't know shit. You know what curtis tells you because if you actually knew everything you wouldn’t'  be having this conversation with me. You would actualy have respect for me instead of telling me I am a bad mother. And let me tell you the deal. Ever since day one you have been talking shit. Which is cool. I don't care. But when you tell other people you know what it feels like to be in jo's place, that pissed me off. Who the hell are you to tell people that? Especially at that early of the stage. I don't have to like you and I sure as hell don’t have to be civil with you. Since you didn't get me pregnant, I don't have to work with you. I only have to work with curtis. Being married to him doesn't give you super magical step mother powers.

Me- I don't deal with you. And keep it going because I know how to make your life miserable. You think paying 600 a month for the next few years is bad? Just wait.... he can't file jo on taxes until he is caught up... which he never will be since I am not getting the full 600.... and NO YOU CAN’T FILE HER!

Her response-  I was texting you just because I wanted to, not because of anything else. I was actually concerned that you thought that we started dating in feb and I felt bad that you were under that impression cuz it wasn't true. I was trying to be nice and give you my side and what I knew or didn't know to clear the air, not try and fight. I guess that in this whole thing you don't know me that well. You got screwed in this situation I know. I won't be the one to rub it in or be rude about it. I am a nice person, and try to get along with everyone. I don't try to know everything, I just try to be empathetic and put myself in others people's shoes or try and understand. That is all I try to do with you and I will never know what you feel or be you. but don't make me the enemy, it’s not going to be a fun road for both of us. I am not saying to be my friend but when I try and apologize, take it as that.  Wow… I want to shoot myself right now. You didn’t feel bad, if you did, you wouldn’t have married him. If you felt bad, you would have bailed. But you didn’t. You knew the situation, so don’t try to sugar coat it now. I don’t care. I don’t know how to make this clear. The only thing I care about is getting fucked over in means of the house, my truck, and everything else that went down. You “winning” him means shit to me. Fucking have him because you are now dealing with his shit! Again, taking what I say and using it against me. Thank you Dr. Phil. All those general ed classes at that community college really paid off!

ME- WHAT THE FUCK?!? Really? I don't even know what to say. First, I am not stupid, I know when you met. But I don't care. You don't want to rub it in? hahah you do all the time. I do have a message that talks about how you got the ring. And what ring is that? Your mothers? oooooooooooh yeah... you got it alright. and curtis got to keep his ring from his marriage with mo. but you are right, you don't rub it in. and fyi..... this is why I don't like you. just reread all your messages again. Now you are trying to be cool and make up. You sound like a moron. Must be the Mormon side coming through. If you really tried to put yourself in my shoes, you wouldn't argue with me all the time and take what I say out of context. You always try to sound like you know what is best for everyone and it makes me sick. You are playing a sick game here and you won't win. But I do love how you tell me when not to text you but when it benefits you, then you can text me. This isn't a double standard here. And I don't care that curtis and I aren't together nor do I care we broke up because of you. I care about how it went down. Unlike you, I have goals in my life and I am in grad school. Grad schools.... feels good rolling off the tongue. You have no idea what we promised each other or how he pinky swore he would never leave me hanging and that is what he did. So spare me your excuses for him and don't defend him to me because at the end of the day, I know the real curtis.

Me-  You being my enemy doesn't bother me. You can't make my life hell. You have no say in anything. I on the other hand can make your life miserable. You see how curtis gets mad when it involves me? Yeah... just something to think about

Her response-  he doesn't talk bad about you Really? Haha, then explain to me exactly why people who don’t know me think I am psycho? and I don’t want to text if we are going to fight like this You can stop at anytime. I am sorry I texted you that like I said I thought it would make things better I want to make amends for jo and everyone else's sake Oh gee, aren’t you the better person. But I don' want to fight or see who can make the other person's life a bigger hell Yeah,  you know who will win;). We are going to do this as mature women looking out for Jo together, or not text at all, but that includes no bad mouthing the other person, that is what I am proposing. WTF? Save all the save the earth and bring the troops home bs. You are a child and need to grow up. Funny, how your facebook status was updated immediately after this conversation, talking about calling me out on my shit. How cute.

Me-  What is this? Jerry Springer’s final thoughts?  Whatever. I can't talk to you anymore. You seriously make my brain hurt because I don't understand any of this. I have been over it for a while. Someone just doesn't know how to shut up

Of course, she updates her status on facebook.

Whitney Kelly Gaither Sometimes you just gotta call people out on their shit. And you don’t always know its shit, till ya call em out! January 27 at 7:49pm via Mobile Web.

What shit did she call me out on? Also, note the time 7:49pm. Our conversation was over at 7:42pm. Coincidence? Ha yeah right.

Whitney Kelly Gaither And what a night.... I'm out, the drama is commenced (in my eyes) and its time to spend some quality time with my sexy hubby! Peace! January 27 at 10:42pm via Mobile Web Please take notice that she used “commenced”!Bottom of Form

I felt compelled to message her in the morning. Here it is:

ME- let me tell you what I texted her in the morning. I was actually updated by a few people of your lovely status updates. Neither were Tyler or Anna. I am over this; I was so over it, I didn't say anything to you last night. I don't have time for these games nor do i have time for you to think you have the right to discuss any of this with me, let alone, update your status on facebook after we dropped it. It is clearly obvious that you are not mature enough to handle this situation or you would not have continued it. Pretty disrespectful. By the way, commenced means to start or to begin. Perhaps, you meant to use ceased. If not, you might want to rethink being a teacher. So if you are done, I am not. If not, I got nothing more than time and energy. And trust me, you will not like the outcome. P.S. You didn't call me out on shit and how tacky to use your facebbook after it was over and you wonder why I don't like you. you don't know boundaries. I am done.

Her Response- it was before we were done and if you compare times, you would have known that I actually did check the times and that is why I was able to say that. Imagine that! and second of all the calling people out on their shit I put on there cuz my friend posted that on hers and I thought it was funny and redneck. This is the stuff I am talking about Lindsey. It is not a difficult concept to use communication vs. who says what when you are trying to work as a team.  Thank you for clarifying. I forgot about the double standard thing going on. HAAAAAAAAaaa I can’t talk to this child. You get know where. But it is okay for you to bitch and moan about something without coming to me. Got it!

Me- ha ha wow. Okay... well since I am in grad school, I used my super duper smart genes to check the time it was posted, which was 15 min AFTER we were done. Don't lie. And you don't need to explain. Because the giving too much detail indicates deceit. I am not a moron and do not act like I am. You posted that about me just admit it. Don't get upset because I called YOU out on your shit

ME- well if you are not going to trust me, this will never work Is this a threat to make me actually give into the bs you are feeding me?, just like this time didn't even last a day. I will be here, waiting to try to make this work for jo, and when you are ready to say no to the drama and work together, you let me know Well, you might be waiting a long time since I am the immature oneJ

Me-  are we 5? and can you read? Let it go. I said I was done. Take it how it is. If you need to know anything about me, know this. If I already said I am done and over it, don't push the fucking issue. Don't keep rambling on with your lame excuses. I don't care. I don’t' even read them and then just seeing your name in my inbox makes me mad. Don't push the fucking issue. You are just going to piss me off again and if you thought I was psycho last night, just keep talking. I will show you psycho. I don't like you. I probably never will. Fuck, you won't be around long enough for me to actually know you. So I will tell you again, I am done. End of discussion.

HAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA you are a piece of work! Just like my amazing friend says, “she is delusional if she thinks YOU are the reason they are becoming an unstable home? How about all the problems she adopted by marrying a fucking immature, selfish, irresponsible idiot?”

To My Daughter's Stepmom

First, I would like thank you for taking the worthless piece of shit, you now call your husband, off my hands. Thank you. Thank you for being so naive that you think he is going to change or act differently because he is with you. I almost married him and then he met you. Again, thank you.

Second, I would like to thank you for being too fucking stupid to use birth control or any type of protection to prevent you from getting knocked up. He can’t even support his first two children, what makes you think he is going to be able to support the third one on what you both make? The only reason why his first daughter is getting any type of child support is because it is court ordered. He has yet to pay any type of child support to me, but yet you think your situation is different. Well congratulations on being baby mama number three and probably the dumbest one out of us all.

With that being said, I have a few things I would like

1. Do not tell me how much he has changed and how he is different- you have known him for less than 5 months and yet you know him better than I do? What’s that you say? You married him? Oh, well in that case, that stupid piece of paper that will mean nothing in a few years, means you know him better than his ex-wife and myself. If he truly did change, he would have learned to use protection with your dumbass. Your situation is exactly the same as mine was with him. EXACTLY. The only difference was that I was on birth control and did not get knocked up as quick. Oh yes, and I have a brain, so I didn’t marry him like he wanted to. So keep thinking he has changed. Come back in a year and tell you me you have the same feelings.

2. Don’t tell me people act differently in different situations- What the fuck is so different? Please explain me that one. I am dying to hear this. Last time I checked, he met me when he was working things out with his ex-wife and stopped to be with me. He met you when he was working things out with me and stopped to be with you. Don’t you see a pattern going on? Oh yeah, you are naïve and think he actually loves you. Not that I am trying to point that you are probably the dumbest person I have ever met, but why would my father let your husband drive his truck around town if we were no longer together? Really? Who does that? My dad hates him but yet my dad would let my ex drive around his baby? Yeah no. So I hope had fun gallivanting in my fathers truck because I am sure that was the last time you will be riding in something worth way more than a couple of thousand dollars. But seriously? What is different? The fact that you guys are poor? That your parents will never be able to help you out? That you are young and dumb? Well good luck with that because he only loves himself. What makes you think you can change him? What’s that? You don’t want to change him? You know that he has party problems but you don’t want him to change? WTF? That leads me into my next point.

3. So you are in this just for him? You married him knowing his flaws and you don’t want him to change?- That is nice, being that he has 2 other children. He is 26 and going down the same path he did with his first 2 failed relationships and you are the next one on the list. And you think that because you are married, that is going to tie him down to you. And I love how you are in it for him. What about his 2 daughters? Are you in it for them as well? Oh, you just barely met my daughter AFTER you married him? Oh, yes, I can see how that is my fault since he was too busy trying to knock you up than spend time with someone who actually mattered in his life. I am glad you know all about his flaws because you are the only person dumb enough to actually stay with him after knowing all that. What is sad is you knew all his worthless bs before you got knocked up and married him. I, on the other hand, didn’t know he was still technically married until after I got knocked up. To each their own.

4. So you love him for his flaws and you know that he has a problem partying but that is why you married him.- Does anyone else see the stupidity in this sentence? First, off, what you just said makes no sense and only makes you look like a moron. Not that you opening your mouth doesn’t make you sound stupid. Second, he doesn’t have a problem with partying. He has a problem with keeping his dick in his pants when he goes out drinking with his buddies. Two completely different topics. But hey, you are cool with that right. Maybe, it is the thrill with you. Who knows, it might actually turn you on knowing that your husband is out getting girls numbers and doing “friend” things with them while you are at home pregnant and watching his 2 children that aren’t even yours. After all, there is nothing wrong with having friends right?

5. Do not ask me questions if you really don’t want my answer- This should speak for itself. Don’t ask my questions thinking I am not going to tell you what I think. I am blunt and vocal and if you think I am going to sugar coat things because you are now my daughter’s step mom, you can think again. You are nothing to my daughter. A real step mom would have tried to get to know her soon-to-be step children before tying the knot with a complete stranger. Oh, you love him? You knew he was the man of your dreams since the day you met him? Silly me, I forgot that you truly know a person when you meet them at a party and spend the night together. My mistake.

6. Don’t get offended when I answer your question- You already know my position on your whole marriage/relationship, so why get all offended when I actually answer a question? I might actually would have a different perspective if the two of you weren’t complete idiots and were caught up in the moment. It is one thing to just think of yourselves, but it is another to think of yourselves when there are children involved. Period. I didn’t think it was appropriate for your husband to introduce you to my daughter after knowing you a few hours and without my consent. You then knew my position on my daughter being around you, period. I didn’t think it was appropriate for him jumping from one serious relationship to the next without even a break in between and it be okay to introduce you to the my daughter. I was very firm on my daughter not meeting you for at least a year, especially, since I know her father so well. Since you have only known him about 4 months, what makes you think that I would no longer think it is appropriate for her to be hanging around you? So, don’t act all shocked when I mention the inappropriateness of this whole situation. It isn’t a new concept and I know this wasn’t the first time you heard it. So quit acting like I hurt your feelings, because frankly, I don’t give a rats ass about you.

7. Do not tell me you think it is time I keep things to myself- The conversation the other day was the first conversation we actually had. Second, don’t ask me questions and then tell me to keep my mouth shut. I am well aware that my relationship was my business and that your relationship with him is your business, but guess what, I have a child with him. So your relationship with him is my business. Imagine that. You married a man that you didn’t know and that you barely knew one child. He has two. You had no clue that you would get along or anything. Everything that you have done and will do, affects my child. I don’t go around telling you every detail of our relationship. I barely talked about my relationship with him. But I have a child that is emotionally distraught because you of you two, so forgive me when I let you know what a dumb bitch you are for marrying someone with IRS up the debt or someone who doesn’t even help support his children. That is not talking about my relationship, that is stating facts about the man you just married. I can go on, but moral of the story is, I don’t open my mouth unless I am asked something. The only exception to that rule, is when it involves the girls.

8. Don’t text me telling me that when things affect my daughter that I need to bring them up with you.- Why is this? Being the wife doesn’t mean all his problems get transferred to you. The great thing about this whole thing is that I don’t have to deal with you. Unless you are secretly a dude, you didn’t get me pregnant. Which translates into you not having any say or rights whatsoever over my daughter. Being married doesn’t mean I automatically come to you.

9. There is no need to tell me that you are bonding with my daughter every time I see you- I am glad that you are bonding, but that might have been more impressive if it was before you got married. I don’t care if you are bonding with her or not because she is not over there to see you. She is over there because your husband has parenting time with my daughter. Therefore, she goes over to spend time with her father. Not his stupid wife and her lame ass family.

10. Please do not tell me who gave you ever single outfit that my daughter is wearing. – I was very close to his first daughter. I had her 90% of the time he had her. I am pretty sure, after a few years, I know what her mother bought her to wear. There is no need to tell me every time I see you that her mother gave you a bunch of her old clothes to wear for my child. Frankly, I don’t care who got them for you. I am just glad that you actually have clothes for her since you failed to have any clothes for his first child. Oh, what’s that? You didn’t have the money to buy a few cheap outfits to have at your house? Yes, I do understand how getting drunk all the time and buying a new long board for over $100 is more important than buying clothes for you new step daughter. Forgive me for having my priorities messed up. For a minute there, I thought I was the good parent, since I was the one that bought over $100 in outfits for her when I never get to see her. It broke my heart that she was upset that her loser father couldn’t manage to get her clothes or her toys from the house that he just upped and stopped paying on and leaving me to lose the house and not having a place to stay. Wow, you married a winner! But it is okay, right? Because you two are a different situation and he will never do to you what he did to EVERYONE else!

11. Telling me “I know that you must think I am a fool”- No, actually I don’t think you are a fool. That is an understatement. I think it is safe to say, that you are probably one of the dumbest people I have ever met.

12. Please do not talk to me like a modern day hippie- You are 23 years old. Do not talk to me like you are smarter than me or that you have more life experience than me. The world isn’t some magical, peaceful place where we all get along. Do not act like it is. Please do not tell me that we need to get along for the sake of the girls. WTF? Really? We all need to get along? Really? You mean constantly fighting with each other is not healthy for the girls? Weird. Thank goodness you are their new step mother so you can help guide me through my bad parenting techniques. You are by far a better parent than myself. It must have been that Step-parenting class that you took. Thank you for taking that. Because of that, all the girls emotional trauma throughout all this is now gone. When you talk like this, it makes you look dumb. It is like you are trying really hard to sound intelligent, but it isn’t working. You are not mature and you are not responsible. Making sure your husband attends his court hearings on our custody battle doesn’t mean you are responsible. How about you get your dead beat husband to pay child support instead of acting like having a child is just one big play date because he gets her every other freaking weekend.

13. Please refrain from hanging all over him or watching my every move. – Just because I loathe your husband doesn’t mean I want him. Because I don’t. I don’t know what crazy stories he is telling you but I am not in love with him nor do I want to be with him. Just because we were supposed to be married doesn’t mean shit. So please, do not come up next to him and put your arms all over him like you are trying to make me jealous. I am well aware that he is with you since I am at YOUR apartment picking up my daughter. Not to mention, why are you doing that in front of the girls? Not only is that tacky, but it shows your insecurities as well as your maturity level. Your husband makes me sick and the next time you decide to grope all over there in front of me, I might not be able to contain myself and throw up all over the both of you. You have been forewarned.

14. If I don’t hear you the first time, do not follow me around repeating it.- I probably heard you the first time, but chose not to acknowledge you because whatever comes from your mouth is usually pointless. I don’t really care to hear that my daughter woke up and then crawled into bed with you and went back to bed. She does that to everyone. You aren’t special. That isn’t her precious way of forming a bond with you. She is scared because she is sleeping in a place she doesn’t know and is a little cuddle bug. So if I don’t respond to you the first time you say it, don’t bring it up 5 more times until I finally say something. You’re her step mother. Those are things that should be a given. Telling me stupid shit like that doesn’t make me like you more. This isn’t a popularity contest and even if it were, you would never win.

15. Do not go around telling people you know what my daughter is going through and how much it effed you up- I get that you came from a broken home. How tragic. Blah blah blah. But unless you know the whole story (not the fairytale version that your husband gives you) , the honest both sides of the story version, don’t open your mouth. That right there makes me want to stab blunt toothpicks into your eye. You have no idea what my daughter is going through. Period. Just because your parents got divorced doesn’t mean that you should be lumped together. Was your father a loser? Was your father unable to keep his dick in his pants? Was your father out meeting other girls and totally ditching out on his responsibilities at home? Was your father trying to work things out with your mother and than meet another chick and decided not to come home anymore? Did your father stop paying all his bills so that your mother would lose the house and no longer have a place to stay with you? Did your mother put down $2000 on a vehicle only for your father to end up taking it and not giving it back because it was in both their names? Did your father end up calling the cops on your mother for not giving back his car when he wouldn’t give the truck back to your mother? Did your father not pay child support? Did your father think that locking it up with some chick was more important than hanging out with you? No, you say? Your father wasn’t anything like that? Well I rest my case. Your father apparently wasn’t a fucking loser like your husband. So the next time you decide to open you piehole, think twice about what you are saying because what my daughter is going through is not what you went through. Yes, I understand that your mother didn’t allow your father to see you. But just because your mother didn’t allow your father to see you and your siblings doesn’t mean I am doing the same thing. You have no idea what you are talking about. This statement really pisses me off. I can make yourself a living hell. If you don’t believe me, try me. I know your husband better than you do and if you don’t think he will do whatever it takes to make me happy, you are fooling yourself. See, he will make his ex-wife and myself happy before you because if we aren’t happy, he isn’t happy. And while we are on the subject, why don’t you just ask him who the one person that can make him so mad. Yeah, that would be me. So keep spewing shit out of your worthless mouth because I can and I will. If he isn’t happy, there is no way you will be happy, which equals a shitty marriage. And yes, I feel perfectly justified in my actions. Just in case you were wondering. Also, just because you didn’t see your father because your mother wouldn’t let him see you, doesn’t mean this is the same situation. Your husband is the biggest loser I have ever met, so before you go open the asshole you call a mouth, know what you are saying. I have tried over and over for him to see his daughter. You were more important than having a relationship with his own flesh and blood. Mmmkay?

I am sorry I runined your life...

Dear Ex-Fiance,

I should be on my knees begging you to come back because you were the best thing that has ever happened to me. I was stupid enough to think I was actually good enough for you. I have done a lot of soul searching and have finally come to the realization that I was the problem this entire time. So please accept my apology since I am the one that ruined your life. Allow me to list the ways that I have screwed up:

1. I am sorry I got knocked up. I thought being on birth control was the safe route. Apparently it wasn’t. I am also sorry for mistaking the words “I want to take advantage of you” for thinking you wanted to sleep with me. I should have just known that I am a whore at heart and will always be one.

2. Sorry for always thinking of myself instead of others. It was selfish of me to get mad every weekend you wanted to go out while I stayed home watching your first child while I was pregnant. How inconsiderate of me to bitch about staying home every weekend while you go out and have a “guys night”. I should have known you wanted to keep your options open just in case you met another person you wanted to knock up. I mean, what was I thinking? We were only having a baby and planning about getting married. I should have known that it was open season for you to gallivant all over town with random women.

3. It was extremely sill of me to think you actually liked me because you wanted to spend every waking minute with me. I mean spending the night at each other’s apartments could have meant anything.

4. It was ridiculous for me to interpret the saying “I love you” as meaning you actually loved me. Boy, am I red in the face!!! I now know that it meant that you loved sticking your penis in me until you found another willing vagina.

5. I am humiliated to actually think we were “serious” after you bought me an expensive, huge pink sapphire rink for engagement ring. I bet you do that with all the girls.

6. I am sorry I didn’t make a fuss when you wet the bed while it saturated my leg and seeped through my mattress. I didn’t want to embarrass you and thought it was appropriate to keep it as our little inside joke. I should have called attention to the fact that you can’t control your bladder throughout the night. A nice girl would have told all your friends and then laugh hysterically at your expense.

7. I can’t believe I was so lazy not to have the house clean after I had an emergency c-section when you came home. Cleaning up your filthy mess was more important than listening to the all the doctors’ advice right? They only went to medical school and have performed hundreds of c-sections that couldn’t possibly know that it takes 6 weeks to fully heal from a c-section. After all, I should have taken more Tylenol 3 if I was in that much pain. Again, I was selfish.

8. I feel ashamed that I put the girls first before your own needs. That killer pimped-out golf cart was more important than providing the girls with food and clothes. I am sorry I questioned you. It did look good just sitting in our garage for several months.

9. When I got accepted to graduate school, I am sorry I didn’t consult with you first. I was thinking about bettering my education as well as getting a high salary to provide you with all the necessities. You know like a 60 inch flat screen, the new hummer, and a toy hauler. Girls with intelligence are such a drag.

10. I can’t believe I had the nerve to make a big deal out of you blowing all our Christmas money at the bar on Christmas Eve. After all, if money was that big of an issue and not having any money to play Santa for the girls, I should have planned ahead. I should have taken the appropriate actions, like taking up a job on the corner in order to buy gifts for the girls. You are entitled to blow your money whenever you want on alcohol and chicks, especially on Christmas Eve. My actions were inappropriate.

11. How dare I call up the bank and report your debit card stolen after spending over $2000 in 2 months and taking out $100 for the Cardinals NFC Championship game after I told you no more than $50. I mean how many times do the Cardinals actually make it to the NFC Championship game? I should have been more considerate to the fact that your team made it that far and you wanted to celebrate their success. You are a loyal fan.

12. I am appalled that I broke up with you after I found out you were sneaking around with another girl. I should have listened to your mother when she said you were a social butterfly and that there was nothing wrong with talking to random women you met at bars. Your mom knows you better than anyone else and I am ashamed that I disregarded what she said. I mean anyone who contracted HIV from sleeping around knows all about this sort of thing and is a reliable source. Girls with dignity are such a downer.

13. I should have turned myself into the police for stealing your car. That was my only mode of transportation for my daughter and I and I should have been more thoughtful to the fact that it was in your name. How dare I wait for you to make a false report to the police. I also can’t believe that I had the nerve to ask for the truck back. Even though, I put $2000 down on it and co-signed, it was ludicrous for me to ask for it in exchange for your car.

14. Asking you to pay child support was out of line. I should have taken all the months I didn’t pay the car payment and write that off your child support tab. You have another baby on the way and I should have never have burdened you with the fact that your daughter needed clothes and food.

15. Contacting your girlfriend at the time was inappropriate. Everyone knows that they want to marry after knowing each other for a month. Silly me to think that it is necessary for your new wife to meet our daughter before you get married. Our daughter is only two, she will like everyone. My bad. I can’t believe I made such a ridiculous request.

So when you decided to tell me that I was a psycho crazy bitch and you never wanted me around your first daughter ever again, I am sorry I screwed things up so badly.
I should have known all actions above would be the death of us. Now I have to live with the knowledge that your wife is now the lucky owner of “your magic stick” and now legally responsible for your debt.

XOXO

Baby mama #2

Yeah, a two year old needs a jacket for school in January

Why is it that I am always surprised at the stupid stunts you pull? I went to pick up our daughter from school and she had no jacket. And why is that? I understand that it is Arizona, but it is still January, and it does get cold in January. Not to mention the morning you dropped her off was a cold morning. I was infuriated. She has been sick since November on and off and you are sending her to school without a jacket?

Instead of yelling at you and making you feel like the loser you are, I texted you. I was nice and wasn't pointing the finger. I said, "if you don't have a jacket, let me know. I will drop one off for her in the mornings". I had no clue if you would respond or ignore me as usual, but I never expected the answer I got. "Jo didn't want to wear a jacket and took it off". WTF? She is 2 and you are 26, not to mention you are her FATHER, which means you have final say. Not a 2 year old. Even if you did play into her little games, why didn't you take the jacket with you and give it to one of her teachers? I know. It is an amazing concept to have common sense. There are going to be a lot of things she isn't going to want to do, does that mean you are going to let her? She isn't going to want to go to bed on time all time, or eat her food, or leave places. What are you going to do? That is right, be the PARENT and direct her to the choice that you have chosen.

I decided not to argue but go along with it. "I understand that. Just make sure you at least bring it so she has it. They played outside today and she didn't get to play because she didn't have a jacket and she was upset". Okay, so I don't understand at all, you are a dumbass.

His answer- "Her teachers need to say something then". Hahahahahahahhah. Who is the parent? The teachers don't need to tell you anything. They don't need to tell the parent to bring a jacket for his child in the middle of January.

Me- "They didn't know. Look. I am being cool. She needs a jacket. It isn't their responsibility. You are the father. Don't push the issue any further. Is it really that hard to say okay and leave it at that"? Seriously, why , must you make EVERYTHING into an argument? Say okay and be done with it. No one cares about your excuses. Everyone else thinks you are an idiot.

his response- "Me too". Me too what? me too that you are being cool? Being cool means you say okay and don't text me your garbage anymore. Are you pissed that I called you out on, yet, another failed attempt at parenting?

ME- "well quit making excuses. She needs a jacket. Period". That is straight to the point. There really isn't anything you should say to that. Your excuses are lame and they are a waste of my time.

His response- "I wasn't. I was saying the teachers should ask. That is it". Yeah, okay, you are right. It is the teacher's responsibility. I am sorry I texted you and bothered you. Next time, I will go straight to the teacher and make sure she knows her job because they are clearly slacking. I had the teacher and father roles confused. My bad.