Okay. For some odd reason, my daughter’s stepmom (on technicality), decided she was going to overstep her boundaries, again. Apparently, it is her place to inform me that I am a bad mother. I think it is safe to say, she is trying to tell me that she is the better mother. (she is the better mother, but she is still pregnant with her first child. Weird)
It started with her butting in, like always. I don’t care when you met my ex. I don’t care if he was playing us both the entire time I was with him. I don’t need you to tell me when you met and give me some sob story about how bad you feel. Hahaha…. I don’t even know what to say to that.
Okay, so you text me to tell me your side of the story on when you met my ex. Great. I don’t care. Last I checked, you went all psycho and told me never to text you again. Which I didn’t and I expect the same courtesy. But once again, it is okay to message me when it benefits you. Here is how the convo went.
Me- I am only going to tell you this once more, this is between curtis and myself. Not you. Nothing you say will ever justify you putting your input where it doesn't belong. Funny how you message me about this bullshit but bitch and complain when I discuss my daughter . I can't talk to you. You make my brain hurt. I couldn't even read what you texted me because it is not your place and you are dumb. So quit trying to act like you are some mature person or whatever. I don't have time for this bs. Talk about overstepping boundaries. So spew your worthless garbage to someone else. You want to make things right? Quit being a fucking cunt all the time. I don't owe you anything. Great you watch my daughter. good for you. Doesn’t' mean I have to respect you. It goes both ways princess. I appreciate that you do look out for my daughter but acting like I am jealous or bitter or anything towards you is not the answer. (By this time, I had enough of her. She is an idiot and she goes from one extreme to the next. One minute she is talking smack and the next she is trying to be nice. I don’t get her.)
Her Response- LOL, I apologize and be a generous person trying to clear things up and you call me a cunt. Mature, and it is obvious your (ugh she can't spell) my elder. Goodnight and karma be with you my friend. Wtf?!?! May karma be with me? Really? What did I do to you that karma will get me? That is cute.
Me- Apparently karma already got you both. So unless you know the whole story, don't involve yourself. Don't talk to me about being mature. But if it makes you feel better then cool. High five to you. Also, I never said Tyler or Anna said anything to me so don't involve them. You have no idea what you are talking about. All you know is what curtis told you. I love when the new girl thinks she knows everything about that past. You are a moron honey. You just look like a damn fool. Thanks for the entertainment!
Her Response- yeah and affecting your daughter as well, which you are too blind to see. Like her father being the loser that he is, isn’t affecting her? Okay. Got it! You can take our money, no biggie. Actually, I don’t take your money. The clearing house takes HIS money. Then I get it. But it isn’t my money. It is my daughter’s. It comes and goes. But it’s a little more serious when it's your daughter that can't get new warm clothes (how is this my problem? She has plenty of clothes at my place. Oh yes, that is right. I actually put her first instead of buying some stupid 40 dollar American eagle hat that looks like shit anyways) and we are struggling to put food on the table for while you are buying touch screen cell phones (I don’t have several touch screens. Just one) that you can't even type on(is this even a valid point?) and if you believe that is the karma she deserves, you better think again. I am not texting you back. I won't read anything you send don't waste your time this conversation is over, and you are literally messed up in the head. Is this her cute little way to turn everything around? Karma my daughter deserves? What the hell are you even talking about? You don’t even make sense. Shut the fuck up!
ME- I am messed up because how? Doesn't curtis have a touch screen? Weird? Oh yes, he has a mytouch that he actually got when it first came out that he tried to say was 50 bucks. I bet you feel like a fool! It's cool, not everyone can be as quick as me. I still don't understand why you are talking to me. You don't know the story. You are obviously mad because I am the one that takes care of my daughter but it is cool. See, when you have a child with someone and neglect taking care of them, you pay this thing called child. See when he was too busy courting you and knocking you up, he had a daughter he wasn't taking care of. So, he is paying child support and back child support. You will learn all about that when your two years are up, oh wise one. And it is obvious you have no idea what are you are talking about because I lost everything because curtis up and left. And if you are struggling so much, maybe just maybe, you should have three dogs or let curtis buy a shit load of American Eagle clothes. Just a suggestion.
Her Response- Wow practice what you preach, oh wait, you know everything huh, I forgot. Yeah, actually, I do know everything. Thank you for acknowledging that. What exactly am I supposed to be practicing what I preach? That I should take care of my daughter? Or that I buy a shit load of clothes? How is it that you know I buy clothes are not? Did you stop trying to stalk me via the web and finally went hardcore and watch me in person? And if I am buying a shit load of clothes, please tell me where they are at, because they sure as hell are not in my closet. So, is this the “I know you are but what am I” game?
ME- practice what I preach? I don't complain about not having money. And it isn't hard to figure out that he is buying American Eagle clothes when there are bags everywhere and I see him in new clothes.... I know this is hard to comprehend... I was with him for 4 years before you, lovey..... I know what clothes he has. Thanks for asking and for your info it is nice to have money for once because someone is paying for his portion. Good for me that he is taking care of his shit... too bad it took months for him to do it. And it took the courts for him to man up. And it is nice that my money doesn't go to overdraft fees or curtis. And you guys are mad because you are paying child support? maureen makes more than all of us combine and I don't see you guys bitching.... that extra 200 dollars a month in back support is the killer huh? And yeah he is paying me money but it isn't enough to buy new shit for me.... you must have missed all the sweet clothes I buy my daughter. I lost everything and my car doesn't work so go fuck yourself because that is my daughter and his daughter and he owes child support. Bottom line. Sorry you don't have money. Should have thought about that. See I am not a push over like maureen. I have paid over 800 bucks in medical bills and child care so excuse me when I laugh at you both for being stupid .
ME(again)- and I am failing to see where this is my fault? You must be upset. It is cool. Whatever makes you feel better and all the money I get goes in an account if you must know. Not that it matters. I don't have to justify myself. So you might want to think about what you say before you open that asshole you call a mouth. Oh and I offered to make the truck current so there is a vehicle for my daughter when she is there.
Her response- revengeful Really? How? Because the courts ordered he pay child support? Well, in that case, I am revengeful. And it feels great!, dispicable Once again, your spelling skills are shining though! , disappointing to who? You? That you don’t have money? Or disappointing because I don’t work at a fish house?, and selfish Yeah, I forgot draining my savings for my daughter’s dr. bills is selfish, thats what you portray. No Lindsey, we don't want had outs from you because you will say one thing one day, then change it the next. I wont' sit here and try to kiss your ass and keep my mouth shut to get what I want like everyone else What is is that you want? Because, my daughter is out of the question. Thanks.. it is not the the Lindsey show Actually, it isJ and you don't realize it now but your daughter will one day realize that it didn't have to be so hard to have her parents split but that her mom made it that way Haha I made it that way? Wow, you must know how the break up went down more than I do. he didn't leave your daughter Um yes, cunty jones, he did leave his daughter. Never coming home or asking to see her is leaving her. , he left you He didn’t leave me, I broke up with him when he was messing around with you., so let him be a father, he is busting his ass to provide for her haha, and he is doing the best he can If he was doing the best he could, he couldn’t have new clothes or other worthless junk while my daughter doesn’t have a jacket. Let him do that at least
Her response again- LOL, no this is you being mad at the world and hating life I think it is the other way around sweety. I love my life!. I appologize And you want to be a teacher?, and you flip out all angry status. Never had that reaction before…. Guess that’s why the masses are agreeing you’re psycho The masses? You, your husband, and his mother? Are you including your family in this equation because people who don’t know me don’t count. You have your child sleeping on a couch. How is it that you know my living situation? Because if you did, you would know she isn’t sleeping on the couch. Your daughter has been sick for months on end. Are you insinuating that her being sick is my fault? Mrs. I had swine flu but didn’t bother to tell you I was sick in the first place? You are constantly sick, yet, it is my fault she is sick? Okay! You raised her in a house that was a pigsty Are you going off of what your husband says? Your husband doesn’t even know proper hygiene etiquette. You have no idea what she was raised in. I keep the house clean, but I refuse to pick after a pig. , and sounds like she is still living in one How would you know this when neither of you have been to my house?. How do you justify putting that money into savings when you, a double major grad student cannot provide a roof over your head or a healthy living environment for your daughter Thank your husband for not letting me provide a roof over her head;) I am into debt up the ass because of him and I go to grad school FULL time and healthy as in emotional or physical? Because living in a small, dog –infested, smelly apartment is healthy? Or the fact that you are constantly fighting with your husband in front of the children is healthy? I am just trying to understand where you are coming from but having a hard time with it, but feel justified in taking money from a household that is stable, where she and her sister have their own bed It is justified. The courts have spoken and I have a court document. What other justifications do you need? Stable? Weren’t you just bitching about not having money to buy my daughter warm clothes?. You can’t provide for her, but you also feel okay not letting her father provide for her either? Wow, mother of the year award honey. Just because I don’t have my own place doesn’t mean I don’t provide for her. The only thing I don’t pay is rent. Oh yeah, utilities also. Other than that, I have bills just like you my dear. You need to get over the fact that he has to pay child support. I guess he should have thought about that before he started sticking his “magic stick” in every vagina he saw.
ME- hahahahah that is awesome! I am a little confused.... again... must be the theme of this convo... see. He didn't leave me, but cool whatever. And when he doesn't come to the house to pay for bills or see his daughter, or call the car in stolen, he did leave her. So I am not quite getting your logic in this whole senario... it must go back to you have no idea what you are talking about. But if you must continue to look like a bafoon... continue.
ME- Wow, bitter much? Are you upset that you are not jo's mother? So you are stable but have no money? And my daughter sleeps on the couch? Are you a super sleuth? Weird? My parents have a huge 5 bedroom house. We have our own room. Thanks. And get this.... we even have our own beds. But I don' t have to justify myself to you. curtis is filthy and doesn't even brush his teeth all the time. He wears the same whitey tighties for a week and I am filthy? Well unlike you, I am not a maid and do not pick up after filth. But it is cute that you know all about my life. And how is jo sick because of me? You are the one that is sick every time she goes over there? Is your baby blocking all the germs that can transfer over to my daughter or something? amazing! again, confused about that one since some genius failed to bring my daughter a jacket to school.
Her response- you can't even match flip flops! What does matching flip flops have to do with anything? She dressed herself. Who cares. and like you said, you are living at your parents at 28 and have been for almost a year. You are proud you have your own bed? congrats! I am proud we have our own beds!
ME- hahahahha okay. Well you got me there. I am a horrible mother. Thank my lucky stars above I have you in my life to point out all my flaws. Maybe it is time to re-evaluate my situation and figure out what I am doing wrong. I forgot a marriage certificate means you know the entire story of what happened. Well, I thank you for informing me on how everything went down and I can clearly see how I was out of line for asking curtis to help support his daughter. Silly me. And I am glad out of everything you bring up the flip flops. They are flip flops... she dressed herself. Get over it. If you are going to bitch to me, bitch to me about something good. But again, it goes back to, this isn't your place. It is clear that you are just talking because you are mad and you think you are jayden's mother. So I guess this convo is over since you have no valid points and you are just trying to bitch. You will soon understand young grasshopper.
Her Response: Lindsey, they didn't even match I am well aware that they didn’t match. I didn’t care. Why dress her nice just to go over to your smelly dog apartment? and she looks like her hair has not been brushed in days Since, you guys barely have her, I don’t expect you to know what it is like to have a child who has a jew fro. He is trying to provide for two households two? Since when does $600 pay for one? And since your husband is a loser, I don’t even get the full $600, you are right. But that brings up the phone again I still don’t get how the phone has anything to do this. I have MY own money. I don’t blow my money and why jayden and you don't have a house Does it really bug you that I have family that can actually help me? I forgot a house costs as much as a phone. I am not her mother, you must be getting paranoid about that since you keep bringing it up. And I am just trying to figure out why if you don't care about curtis and you being over, you are so resentful to me. To the point I apologize because I would want someone to if it was me and you blow everything out of proportion. Hahah and people wonder why dealing with the two of you is stressful. You completely did a 180 in this text. Not to mention, your Dr. Phil is coming out.
Me- so we are on the flip flop kick again? Really? and who had to ask who if her hair could be brushed when over at his place? Weird. But whatever, if flip flops are on the top of your list, I am one damn good mother. Thanks sugar. Second, she dressed herself who cares. Third, I am not paranoid, I am telling you that you are acting like you are her mother and you are totally overstepping your boundaries and I don't like it. She knows who her mother is, so don't flatter yourself. And as far as the house goes, you don't even own a house and you can barely afford rent so you aren't that far behind me. Maybe you are just jealous because I have a sweet set up because you will never be able to move in with your parents because your mom lives in an apartment. I don't know though,I don't really know you
Me- And I am not resentful towards you. You just don't know when to stop, when I tell you to stop, stop, don't push it like a little kid. You apparently think it is your place to discuss all this with me. I didn't realize you got me pregnant. weird. And you are right. I do take certain things to the extreme. I have dealt with this stupid drama for almost a year and it is still being brought up. You haven't had to pay child support for most of the year while I was struggling not being able to pay for my house, so excuse me when I don't really care about our financial situation. Fuck, you have no idea what went down yet you are all up in my shit. I can't even breathe. But keep it up. I find this hilarious... just more shit to laugh with everyone about. Thanks!
Me- p.s. I wash her hair. Curtis doesn't get her until 4pm. That means she has all day to get dirty and mess her hair up. And unlike some people, I give her naps.... which means her hair will get messy. But thanks for playing along
Her Response- which is fine I am glad I got your approval, I only see her when she gets home and that makes sense. I am not trying to take your spot, never have, never been and when you thought she was talking about another mom, she was talking about mama g, my mom. She definitely knows her mom and always will Yeah, no shit!
ME- Well thank you Tyra motha fucking Banks. Go read some parenting books on how to be a proper step mom.
Her Response- see that is the shit I am talking about. I never said I knew everything from before or everything about you Does anyone else see the contradiction in this?, but I do know now What exactly do you know? You still don’t know SHIT. You only know what your husband tells you. You never once tried to be cool with me to even understand that I will be cool when you guys grow up. So, no, you DON’T know anything Twatty McGee, and the things that affect me and I am so confused why you resent me and why you push things with me. I have never started a conversation to fight with you or to be a bitch, but you turn everything into that way. I feel like I am talking to myself right now.
ME- ha wow. Okay. I don't even know if I can carry on this conversation. I don't consider it a conversation when all you do is take what I say and turn it around into your own words. Basically, that is talking to myself, except, I don't piss myself off. Weren't you the one telling me about my living situation? But you don't know everything now? Typical fucking curtis. Keep it up. And I push things? Jesus fucking Christ. Do you save what I tell you and then use it on me later like I won't know? That doesn't impress me and sure as hell won't make me like you. Just in case you were wondering. And for the record, you still don't know shit. You know what curtis tells you because if you actually knew everything you wouldn’t' be having this conversation with me. You would actualy have respect for me instead of telling me I am a bad mother. And let me tell you the deal. Ever since day one you have been talking shit. Which is cool. I don't care. But when you tell other people you know what it feels like to be in jo's place, that pissed me off. Who the hell are you to tell people that? Especially at that early of the stage. I don't have to like you and I sure as hell don’t have to be civil with you. Since you didn't get me pregnant, I don't have to work with you. I only have to work with curtis. Being married to him doesn't give you super magical step mother powers.
Me- I don't deal with you. And keep it going because I know how to make your life miserable. You think paying 600 a month for the next few years is bad? Just wait.... he can't file jo on taxes until he is caught up... which he never will be since I am not getting the full 600.... and NO YOU CAN’T FILE HER!
Her response- I was texting you just because I wanted to, not because of anything else. I was actually concerned that you thought that we started dating in feb and I felt bad that you were under that impression cuz it wasn't true. I was trying to be nice and give you my side and what I knew or didn't know to clear the air, not try and fight. I guess that in this whole thing you don't know me that well. You got screwed in this situation I know. I won't be the one to rub it in or be rude about it. I am a nice person, and try to get along with everyone. I don't try to know everything, I just try to be empathetic and put myself in others people's shoes or try and understand. That is all I try to do with you and I will never know what you feel or be you. but don't make me the enemy, it’s not going to be a fun road for both of us. I am not saying to be my friend but when I try and apologize, take it as that. Wow… I want to shoot myself right now. You didn’t feel bad, if you did, you wouldn’t have married him. If you felt bad, you would have bailed. But you didn’t. You knew the situation, so don’t try to sugar coat it now. I don’t care. I don’t know how to make this clear. The only thing I care about is getting fucked over in means of the house, my truck, and everything else that went down. You “winning” him means shit to me. Fucking have him because you are now dealing with his shit! Again, taking what I say and using it against me. Thank you Dr. Phil. All those general ed classes at that community college really paid off!
ME- WHAT THE FUCK?!? Really? I don't even know what to say. First, I am not stupid, I know when you met. But I don't care. You don't want to rub it in? hahah you do all the time. I do have a message that talks about how you got the ring. And what ring is that? Your mothers? oooooooooooh yeah... you got it alright. and curtis got to keep his ring from his marriage with mo. but you are right, you don't rub it in. and fyi..... this is why I don't like you. just reread all your messages again. Now you are trying to be cool and make up. You sound like a moron. Must be the Mormon side coming through. If you really tried to put yourself in my shoes, you wouldn't argue with me all the time and take what I say out of context. You always try to sound like you know what is best for everyone and it makes me sick. You are playing a sick game here and you won't win. But I do love how you tell me when not to text you but when it benefits you, then you can text me. This isn't a double standard here. And I don't care that curtis and I aren't together nor do I care we broke up because of you. I care about how it went down. Unlike you, I have goals in my life and I am in grad school. Grad schools.... feels good rolling off the tongue. You have no idea what we promised each other or how he pinky swore he would never leave me hanging and that is what he did. So spare me your excuses for him and don't defend him to me because at the end of the day, I know the real curtis.
Me- You being my enemy doesn't bother me. You can't make my life hell. You have no say in anything. I on the other hand can make your life miserable. You see how curtis gets mad when it involves me? Yeah... just something to think about
Her response- he doesn't talk bad about you Really? Haha, then explain to me exactly why people who don’t know me think I am psycho? and I don’t want to text if we are going to fight like this You can stop at anytime. I am sorry I texted you that like I said I thought it would make things better I want to make amends for jo and everyone else's sake Oh gee, aren’t you the better person. But I don' want to fight or see who can make the other person's life a bigger hell Yeah, you know who will win;). We are going to do this as mature women looking out for Jo together, or not text at all, but that includes no bad mouthing the other person, that is what I am proposing. WTF? Save all the save the earth and bring the troops home bs. You are a child and need to grow up. Funny, how your facebook status was updated immediately after this conversation, talking about calling me out on my shit. How cute.
Me- What is this? Jerry Springer’s final thoughts? Whatever. I can't talk to you anymore. You seriously make my brain hurt because I don't understand any of this. I have been over it for a while. Someone just doesn't know how to shut up
Of course, she updates her status on facebook.
Whitney Kelly Gaither Sometimes you just gotta call people out on their shit. And you don’t always know its shit, till ya call em out! January 27 at 7:49pm via Mobile Web.
What shit did she call me out on? Also, note the time 7:49pm. Our conversation was over at 7:42pm. Coincidence? Ha yeah right.
Whitney Kelly Gaither And what a night.... I'm out, the drama is commenced (in my eyes) and its time to spend some quality time with my sexy hubby! Peace! January 27 at 10:42pm via Mobile Web Please take notice that she used “commenced”!
I felt compelled to message her in the morning. Here it is:
ME- let me tell you what I texted her in the morning. I was actually updated by a few people of your lovely status updates. Neither were Tyler or Anna. I am over this; I was so over it, I didn't say anything to you last night. I don't have time for these games nor do i have time for you to think you have the right to discuss any of this with me, let alone, update your status on facebook after we dropped it. It is clearly obvious that you are not mature enough to handle this situation or you would not have continued it. Pretty disrespectful. By the way, commenced means to start or to begin. Perhaps, you meant to use ceased. If not, you might want to rethink being a teacher. So if you are done, I am not. If not, I got nothing more than time and energy. And trust me, you will not like the outcome. P.S. You didn't call me out on shit and how tacky to use your facebbook after it was over and you wonder why I don't like you. you don't know boundaries. I am done.
Her Response- it was before we were done and if you compare times, you would have known that I actually did check the times and that is why I was able to say that. Imagine that! and second of all the calling people out on their shit I put on there cuz my friend posted that on hers and I thought it was funny and redneck. This is the stuff I am talking about Lindsey. It is not a difficult concept to use communication vs. who says what when you are trying to work as a team. Thank you for clarifying. I forgot about the double standard thing going on. HAAAAAAAAaaa I can’t talk to this child. You get know where. But it is okay for you to bitch and moan about something without coming to me. Got it!
Me- ha ha wow. Okay... well since I am in grad school, I used my super duper smart genes to check the time it was posted, which was 15 min AFTER we were done. Don't lie. And you don't need to explain. Because the giving too much detail indicates deceit. I am not a moron and do not act like I am. You posted that about me just admit it. Don't get upset because I called YOU out on your shit
ME- well if you are not going to trust me, this will never work Is this a threat to make me actually give into the bs you are feeding me?, just like this time didn't even last a day. I will be here, waiting to try to make this work for jo, and when you are ready to say no to the drama and work together, you let me know Well, you might be waiting a long time since I am the immature oneJ
Me- are we 5? and can you read? Let it go. I said I was done. Take it how it is. If you need to know anything about me, know this. If I already said I am done and over it, don't push the fucking issue. Don't keep rambling on with your lame excuses. I don't care. I don’t' even read them and then just seeing your name in my inbox makes me mad. Don't push the fucking issue. You are just going to piss me off again and if you thought I was psycho last night, just keep talking. I will show you psycho. I don't like you. I probably never will. Fuck, you won't be around long enough for me to actually know you. So I will tell you again, I am done. End of discussion.
HAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA you are a piece of work! Just like my amazing friend says, “she is delusional if she thinks YOU are the reason they are becoming an unstable home? How about all the problems she adopted by marrying a fucking immature, selfish, irresponsible idiot?”
Wow. You are so scary and immature.
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